Several years ago, I was having dinner with a woman who described her job as “her life’s work”. That expression was like a lightning bolt to my brain, and it began my journey to discover what, exactly, my life’s work might be. My parents encouraged my sisters and I to explore who we were and follow our curiosity. Because of this, I grew to understand that exploring was taking me closer to who I really was. In every exploration, a knowing and fierceness grew in me.
Growing up in the Frederick household, my parents created a family defined as people that you may be related to and also as people that you brought into your family and chose to love. My community of family that I have created is one of my greatest gifts to myself. They provide a constant reflection of how I am showing up, and also give me the space to make changes that move me closer to me – closer to my authenticity, deeper in my relationships, and clear about my path ahead.
Like most humans, my deepest learning comes from new experiences…motherhood is the experience that has been the most gratifying, challenging, and inspiring for me. My daughter turned my world upside down in the most expected and unexpected ways, and I am so grateful that for the rest of my life I have her as one of my greatest teachers. Modeling what my parents modeled for me is important to me in my relationship with my daughter. I want her to know her own fierceness and how to continue to find it on her lifelong journey of adventure, learning, and fun.
I believe the universe puts us all in the way of experiences that will evolve us, and I believe that process of evolving always starts from the inside out. Being open to new choices and possibilities – so that I could live my life with more grace, more consistency, more joy – requires me to practice self-reflection and mindful presence every day. Some days that feels like a natural flow, and other days it requires a Herculean effort. And I am grateful I know myself well enough to choose adventures and experiences that will keep me open to possibility.
From playing tennis to playing roller derby; from small-town Indiana to living in Chicago and now Indianapolis; from my business travels to my first solo trip in Italy; from being the world’s coolest aunt to the world’s most embarrassing mother; from my roles in small and large organizations to my new role as an entrepreneur and a creator of space for people to do their own life’s work… I’m closer to the truest me than I’ve ever been. And that feels like my life’s work: staying committed to my own unfolding and being a witness, guide, coach, and leader to others as they do the same.